How is Your Ego Limiting You?
There are many definitions of what EGO is. Therefore, for the purpose of this article, let’s define EGO as identification with oneself. It is an identity that we have created about ourselves, in our mind.
This identity has a set of values, beliefs and expectations that subconsciously are directing and influencing our behaviours. Thus, our life.
We all have an identity of how we see ourselves and how we are supposed to behave. Having an EGO supports the navigation of both, our professional and personal life and how we experience it.
The question is: Are we conscious about it?
For example, some years ago, I decided to improve my health. In the process, I created a subconscious identity of a “healthy & sporty person.” This identity has the beliefs and values that in general someone like that will have — exercise minimum five times per week and eat healthy no matter what.
Although, it was a positive identification and one that contributed very much to my well-being, I was not conscious of the areas in which it was limiting me.
My identity was preventing me from enjoying the process, as I was focusing on getting the exercise done, I felt guilty and upset at myself when I ate chocolate or carbs, and it was causing conflict with my partner at that time.
Once I realized that I had created that identity and that it was limiting me in other areas of my life. It empowered me to enjoy healthy living as a conscious choice, one that contributed to my well-being and greater enjoyment of my life. It felt like freedom!
How can EGO be limiting our success, productivity and fulfillment?
When we subconsciously create an identity for ourselves, we are putting "a box" around us, with the beliefs, values and behaviours that this identity encompasses, therefore it is limiting us to see possibilities and opportunities beyond it. We are acting and behaving according to the expectations of our EGO.
This subconscious identification, the Ego, likes to be protective of itself, defending the beliefs and values that it has created. Therefore, it becomes defensive when anyone is challenging them or has opposite views.
When subconsciously the Ego becomes defensive of itself identification, we become very close minded to new ideas or different perspectives. This closeness is impairing us to "get out of the box," to be aware of opportunities, see possibilities that help us to overcome any challenge or resolve problems.
How does EGO show up in the corporate world?
The best way to explain it is with an example.
I remember attending a meeting when we were resolving an issue with a client. Two managers were "bumping heads" about how to move forward. Both of them had different perspectives and beliefs. Subconsciously their Ego was driving their behaviours. Probably it was protecting them for their self-image in front of their team or themselves, "I am always right" or "Do it as I say."
The outcome of the meeting was not the most productive and collaborative possible. It left impressions that were not productive for the future of the relationship with the client.
Now, imagine if the same situation was not driven by the Subconscious influence of Ego, how different the meeting would have been?
This is one example that we see very often in the corporate world, and it is impairing the success and performance of individuals, teams and companies.
It is very empowering when we bring into our consciousness what identity or identities we have subconsciously created in our mind. And also, when we start noticing when Ego is taking control over our behaivours.
When we bring into our consciousness the role that Ego is playing in our life, we start uncovering where we are limiting our success, happiness and fulfillment.
I kindly invite you today, to bring into your awareness what identity you have subconsciously created that might be directing and influencing your life, thus limiting your highest potential.
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